I found this from a forum on autism, took the test on this site and got a 142 so no surprise there but I wanted to say hello
I am 41 years old and work as an electronics technician when work is available and I have Autism, I never knew about alexithymia till now and when people as me of my sexual identity I usually just say that I don't have one and just say asexual but that may not be a correct statement now, how would I tell some of this condition?
I'm 42 years old and got a score of 152 and I work as a Senior Analyst. I've been diagnosed with Bipolar II and Schizoid Personality Disorder (which no longer exists according to the DSM V), but I suspect I'm pretty close to Asperger's and share many off the symptoms.
Personally I'd advise being very cautious about telling others about this condition. If people know you have autism then it's not such a big deal to say you don't connect or experience emotions easily. Personally I told only a select few about my conditions and I usually describe myself as being like Spock from Star Trek. Funnily enough my brother told a workmate that I was going to visit him. when asked what I'm like my brother said I'm like Spock and don't show emotion. Which is funny because I hadn't told him about my conditions because I had only been recently diagnosed.
I'm 14 scoring 131 and can see how the way I act, talk, and feel are all like what's described and can finally tell what's going on but how do I tell someone I care about that it highly likely that I have it and how do I explain to the relationship I'm in that this can be the reason sexual acts do nothing for me and that the reason I can't explain every emotion I feel?
Firstly why do you want to tell others about this possible condition? i.e. what do you hope to gain by telling these people?
Secondly, not to sound patronizing but since you're only 14 it's possible that you may change in this regard as you get older. Maybe you will maybe you won't only time to tell. Personally I didn't, but it's still early days for you.
My husband is an aspie and I am NT. He seems to be Alexithemic and he is not that interested in sex but when we do it is sweet and loving and he has great eye contact. It is just rare he wants to do it. He does not even pleasure himself so I am wondering if his low drive is due to being aspie maybe? confused. Some aspie's report not being that interested in sex. It could be an anxiety thing or sometimes I think he would just rather do his own hobby.
Alexithymia - emotional blindness - is a personal trait which affects roughly 10% of the population.
Alexithymia describes the difficulty of people to perceive and describe emotions of others and themselves. Most persons concerned are not aware about this deficit and usually they are just recognizing it in contact with others, especially close friends, within their family or their partner.
These pages should deliver additional information about Alexithymia and offer information for affected persons, relatives and generally interested people.